Why Positive Thinking Isn’t Healing You

You've tried to change your thoughts.

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You've told yourself to think positively, to stay strong,

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to get it together. But your life still feels the same. But your life, but because it's not your thoughts running your reality, it's your nervous system.

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It's the tension you carry every day.

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The stress your body never releases. The subconscious patterns you didn't choose but kept living. You're not stuck

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because you're doing it wrong. You're stuck because your body doesn't feel safe enough to change. And until that shifts, nothing else will.

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Quantum healing isn't about thinking better. It's about finally teaching your system it's safe to let it go. And when

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that happens, your reality changes without force, without burnout, without fighting yourself every step of the way.

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And that's what we're driving, we're diving into today.

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I'm supposed to have a guest on. I'm not sure where she is. She did get the the message. And as you can see, I have a

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new background. I've got things that are changing. I'm trying a different platform. So, yes, it's a little nervous. I'm a little nervous about it.

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So, we'll see how this all goes, but I'm excited about the possibilities of what I can do with this new platform. And I

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am Kathleen Flanigan, and I am your host to the journey of an awakening spirit. And welcome.

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I'm not sure what Brianna was going to actually talk about when it came to the quantum healing, but what I do know

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about from my own self is the body really does have to feel safe

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before it changes. And I know that you guys I told you a little bit about my water heater episode back um a couple of weeks ago.

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And what actually ended up happening on the water heater was that everything went fine. And Sal and I were just kind

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of a little crazy for the last couple of weeks doing this, getting through it.

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He's in Texas right now visiting his folks and I'm up here navigating through whatever I have to navigate because we

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have cats and all that kind of stuff. So managing that I felt like for the for

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the last two weeks that I felt like I was a chicken with her head cut off.

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I didn't know what I was doing. I felt numb inside. I felt like something was wrong, but I didn't know what it was. So I sat with it. And that's the biggest

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that's the best thing you can do is sit with it. And then there was also this feeling of an interesting feeling of emotion that came up of you know I don't

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know if I even want to be here anymore again. And these are and I'm thinking I don't feel this way. Where is this coming from? And it came out that part

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of this is the detox that I'm going through also is releasing stuff of old thought patterns. And I had a very

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interesting conversation with a friend of mine about it. And he laughed and he got me laughing hysterically about how crazy I had been feeling.

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And he basically what he did is he helped me to understand what all was going on because he said, you know, in

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two years you're going to have a whole new body because our cells regenerate every couple of years. And as our cells regenerate,

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then we become new. So whatever you're feeding your body, whatever you're feeding in your thoughts, if you start shifting and changing, those things

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start changing and you have a whole new body. Hence, looking younger, feeling younger, you know, that type of thing.

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And since January, I've been on this 90-day detox. I'm off of it now. I'm still taking some of the supplements as

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I'm navigating through the last phase of it.

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And I feel great. I've lost some weight and I'm happy. And then when the water heater went on, I was like, "What the

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heck happened to me?" And part of it is not only was it a massive shock to the system and a detox that I was going

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through, I also discovered that I had to face more stuff. And I'm not ready to

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talk about in depth what this is yet because I'm still navigating through it.

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But I realized that I'm like, who is this person? I don't know. This isn't doesn't feel like me. It doesn't feel like mine. Now, yes, I've gone back to

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the womb and I've looked at things and I've felt things and I've experienced things and that's all fine and good, but it was something it felt different. It didn't feel like me.

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And so then, but I could see the trauma.

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I could see a lot of things going on inside my body and I wasn't sure how to handle it. So I just sat with it and I

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was with it and my body was just, you know, what do you need? What do you need? What do you need? And I just kept asking and it was about learning the language of the body.

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So then I decided I needed to ask for help because I I really was at a loss. I didn't like this feeling. S was gone.

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It's just me and the cats. And I was just felt challenged in navigating whatever this is. But it

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was a a series of emotions that were coming up. And I knew that I was at at a big deep center place of where I'm at in

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my own healing and growth and breakthrough and that type of thing.

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So, I I called a friend and and I thought, "Okay, I know this is probably not the best thing to do with her

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because, you know, her mom just recently passed. She hasn't been she hasn't had her, you know, she hasn't been buried yet, various things." And she ended up

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calling a couple of days ago. And it was the best thing because I'm just telling her

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what's going on. I'm just just like, I just need help. I just need to see and maybe you could see something I can't

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see. And I love this woman to death. I mean, it was so much fun because she's like, "Oh my god, girl, it's the father.

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You need to call the father. These angels aren't helping you." And it was like she just went down this road because she's so she's African,

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American, no English. And um and she's from Ghana. And I just

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laughed about it because she just went into this. Her English brogue wasn't there. It was definitely African what

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she was saying. And it was like, you know, your father, you need to ask your father. You're not asking. You know,

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he's the one who guides us. He's the one who does this. And I just sat there and went, "Oh my god, I remember all of this. I remember all of this. I used to

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do this all the time." And so I went to bed that night and I just said, you know, this is where I'm at. This is what I need. This is what I need help with.

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and you know, I'm here to do your work and if I can't do your work because I can't figure out what's wrong with me or get the help that I need, then you know,

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what's the point of being here? And I just called it all out and is what I did. I just called it completely out and

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and I felt a shift. I felt good the next morning. Everything felt good. I was happy. I got a lot done.

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And I started moving and things are moving and shifting. I'm not in 100 pl%

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percent place where I want to be. But you know what? That's okay.

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To me, just remembering that sometimes we have to ask for a higher source and we think that spirit's going to be there or the angels or our guides or whatever.

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And yes, they're there, but they take orders from the big man. And that's how I look at it. They they take orders from them.

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And I needed to re be reminded of that because I remember when I was in my 20s and I was living with this woman and she

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was an alcoholic and I was trying to get to Colorado but it wasn't time and I

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just didn't know how to deal with life and it was really hard to be with her because I mean she treated me like I was some sort of a kid and it it it was just

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weird. And I remember asking God and I just remember putting my arm up. I was laying in bed. I put my arm up and I just asked him to hold my hand and he

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did. And you know when you have your your shoulders or your arm above your head for any length of time, it gets

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really tired and weak. And I never felt it. But I felt this surging of love and energy come through me. And I remember that's what I used to do is I used to

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talk to God. And my mother and I used to have have conversations because she used to tell me I wasn't allowed to talk to God directly.

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And I remember telling her that she was absolutely nuts that if I'm allowed to talk to God and I can talk to God if I

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want to and there's no such thing as a corporate ladder with God and if there is then I don't know who your God is because that is not my God. And

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she thought I was crazy when I said that and she says, "Well, I don't know why you're cussing at God." I said, "Well,

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you know what? If he's God and he's all loving, then by golly, he's going to tolerate everything that comes out of my mouth and how I feel and everything else." And I and I did. I believed that

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with my whole heart when I said that. I said, "And besides, he doesn't care.

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I'm talking to him. That's all that matters is I'm talking to him." And I believe that with my entire being.

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And so I did. I always talked to God.

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And yes, I have relations with Mother Mary and Mary Magdalene and Quan and all the goddesses and all the angels and I

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have a connection with them, but I'm not getting the help that I needed. So, I went to the big guy or woman, whatever

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it is, he she whatever it is, don't know, don't care. And just realize that I do need the help. And and I'm

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navigating what I'm going through. I'm learning like this new system on eCam for my show

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and I I love what it can do. I just haven't got it down fully and I just finally got the program about a couple of days ago.

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So, I'm giving it a shot and I'm gonna have some really cool things that I want to do and you know, I've been working on

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my course that I'm doing and finishing it up and finally feels like I've got it complete to the way it is. So, now I'm

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doing formatting changes and making sure and then I'm going to start uh beta testing it. So, I have one where I have

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the facilitation portion done of the 12 courses. I only but I'm redoing all of the courses and then once I get them

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where I want then I'm going to do the rest. But I'm moving forward and you know Sal is down in Texas and he's so

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bored and I said well you're the one who let them guilt you and shame you your sister into doing this for a month and

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for whatever reason we needed to be apart from each other for a month and I'm okay with that and I got okay with that.

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I don't have issues being alone.

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What I do have issues with sometimes is when I just feel kind of weird and I've got nobody to talk to other than the cats. And you know, believe me, the cats

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are not necessarily happy. We're getting into a routine because dad's gone.

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But sitting with whatever it is and trying to name whatever that emotion is that you're feeling,

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that's what's important. And last week, I know I said I didn't put on the mask. I didn't do anything.

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And somebody had said mentioned to me it was that you didn't feel safe. This was washing your hair was so important to

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you because it was this is your home and you don't feel safe in your home. And the only thing you knew that you could probably maybe feel safe is if you could

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wash your hair. And it was true. I mean it really was that feeling. I didn't feel safe in my home at that moment. And

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I saw that it escalated for a while because when S left it was like well what if? What if? What if? And I'm like,

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"Oh my god, I'm creating a story." And I needed to stop the story. So I did because I knew I was safe. And then I

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verified everything to make sure I was safe. I did all the things that I had to do for me to feel safe again. And even though I am safe,

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the body doesn't think it's safe. you know, there's so much trauma that was that happened that I'm still working on

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calming the nervous system. And there's nothing wrong with that because what I realized before I realized go ask God

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for help and somebody telling me my didn't feel safe.

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What I had to real what I saw before that was I'm in trauma and I'm feeling

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traumatized. And I realized that and S realized that and it was shocking to

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both of us almost of how we both reacted to it and we both let each other be and

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we just walked around. I I don't understand that part of it yet about the connection of us getting like closer in

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trauma because I don't think that S had trauma but apparently he had something because he was very much in a trauma

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state and he admits that he was in a trauma state and we're both working through this and

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we're both getting on the other side of doing the things that we need to do and you You know, I'm doing things I'm not really necessarily happy to do, like

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dealing with the fish and the plants in the basement cuz we're growing food and flowers and everything else. And we're having snow today. Yay.

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Otherwise, they would be going in the ground. But, you know, but that's what you do.

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So, I think the fastest way to work it is just be with whatever your nervous system is asking for. You know, what is

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it that it needs? ask it and just start listening differently about what that what you hear because you will hear

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something. You will get pictures. You will hear something. You will get a sensation. And then it's just being with that moment, being in that feeling is

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when you actually understand what's going on and where you're going with it.

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I um it doesn't always feel good, but

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when your capacity is at its limit, the only thing you can do,

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in my opinion, is stop. So, for the last two weeks, I haven't done I mean, I've got the show out. That's about the only

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thing I've done. I mean, I stopped pretty much everything because I I came to a crash and burn and there was nothing wrong with the crash and burn.

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I'm sleeping every night. I have no issues with my sleeping. I'm eating. I'm doing everything. My body is handling all of this really, really well.

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It's just being with the emotion. And I know and it's passing.

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And I know that I have to let it burble up because sometimes that's what we have to do is just let it come up. Let it surface. And don't put any story to it.

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Don't talk about it. Don't experience. I mean, you're going to experience a feeling, but don't put a story behind it. Don't make anything up about it.

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Just allow it to just come up and let it go. That's it.

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Because once I understood that this trauma that what I'm feeling, what I'm dealing with right now isn't really mine. And there's a reason for that. And that'll be another day.

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It's not really mine, but because of what I chose to do, I have to figure out how to maneuver through it. So that's

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what I asked God for. Show me how to do this because I don't know. I mean, it's not mine. It's stopping me. It's the

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nervous system. And I got word that the nervous system that, you know, just because I got everything straight up here doesn't mean everything's straight

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in here in my nervous system. And if the nervous system is still a mess, I'm not going to do it because there's parts of where I see my future going that still

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goes whoa. So I'm like, okay, got to work on this some more. It's okay that I feel woo, but let's just navigate

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through it. Let's just be gentle. Let's be kind with myself. Let's just take whatever baby step I need to do so I feel that safety.

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It's all there is to it. Do I want to be there? Yes. Yesterday would have been fine but that's not what it is.

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I just have to trust and be and you know trust this process because this is a big deal. I mean this is a liflong process

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of healing what happened of understanding what happened of seeing the bigger picture and yes we live in a

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crazy world right now and as as when I was talking to Zenzi I mean that's what she said I mean there's this is the time

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of false prophets a lot of people are saying things a lot of people are going I'm the one and blah blah blah and no

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because they don't feel right to me I know things are coming I know my time is coming. I know that it's going to change. Everything is going to change

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and we're still in this little lull. And maybe it's a good thing we're in the lull.

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You know, the quiet before the storm. Am I ready? Um, I think I'm ready. Some days I don't know because if a water

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heater could send me off into a a tangent, then that's a different story. But that's what it is.

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That's how things are. That's what life is.

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It's what we make of it. It's what we think of it. It's what's important to us. And right now, friends are important to me. Staying connected is important to

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me. Am I connected? Yes and no. I'm connecting to the people that I know that I need to be around right now. that

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the ones that can help me and and not push buttons or get me off in a tan tangent a tangent when I just need to be like left alone.

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I mean, it's like if you want to talk to me, that's one thing, but you want to start pushing a button or you want to like say something that I didn't ask for advice or your opinion, then I don't

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want to I don't want to be around you because I can't deal with it because I know how I'm feeling. And it's like, well, you obviously have no clue.

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You're insensitive or you're just ignorant. I don't know. Don't care. The point is is that I know what I need. And

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what I need is that. And if I want to have fun, I'm going to have fun. If I'm not ready to have fun, I'm not going to

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have fun. If I need to just be taking care of myself and being nice and cooking nice meals and trying new recipes, then that's what I'm going to

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do. Those are the things that make me feel good.

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That's what grounds me back into my body when I'm not necessarily feeling the best. I mean, if it wasn't snowing out

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here, I would be out in the yard digging up rocks and planting flowers and doing all the things that I want to do that

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the weather's not permitting and it's been cold here for the last week and there's not much you can do about it. So, what do you do?

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You make the best you can and make lemonade out of the le when life does that for you.

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So my advice to you is just be nice to yourself. Don't make up any stories. Just sit with the emotion. Be with it.

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Take a bath. Write it. Do a journal. Do what makes you happy or makes you feel good when you're in those crazy places

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because we're all in it. I don't know anyone who's not having some sort of a life experience right now. And it may

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not be a big deal or it may be a big deal. I mean, a water heater is not a big deal, but I reacted as if it was a big deal.

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And I think it was because I'm so over water losses. I mean, this is the third time I've had a water loss in what, the

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last five to 10 years. I mean, this is old. This is just getting old.

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But what do you do? I'm a happy little homeowner. So, when you're a homeowner, you get to deal with things like this,

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right? I knew the hot water heater was going to be replaced eventually. I knew that I had at least five years. Well, I

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didn't make it for five years. I had at least another three years on this water heater and I didn't get it. So, you

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know, and I look at this was mainly because I needed to see something to

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move it out of my body because I'm in the detox mode. And let's just keep letting it come up and burble up and let it go. And that's what I choose to do.

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And that's what I highly recommend for you to do. Just feel it. Just understand where it's coming from. Write about it.

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And then ask for help. you know, if it's through your guides, through the angels,

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through God, whatever it is, but reach out and have somebody help you during this because it's it is painful and you

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don't need to be isolated. There are people out there that can help you. And if you need to reach out, feel free.

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I've got a contact list on my website at kathleenflanigan.com.

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Feel free to reach out and we can have a conversation and just see what I can do to help you. I also have a school community. I am the light sanctuary

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forward slashabout and come check out the school. I mean it's for people that just are just want more that are tired

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that are doing the work but they feel like they're never getting anywhere. And this community is for people like that to be able to just put your hair down,

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let everything walk through, calm your nervous system down and get back into being you. So, I want to thank you for

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joining me today. I really do appreciate it. If this resonates with you, feel free to like and subscribe to the show and then you'll be notified of future

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shows. Or if you know somebody that this could help, then feel free to give them the link and let them know that you care

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enough and see where it goes. And I will see all of you next week, Tuesday at 4 PM Eastern Standard Time. And from my

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heart to yours, I hope you have a fabulous week.

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