Achieving Harmony: A Journey Towards Joy and Emotional Restoration

KATHLEEN: Today I want to talk about transformation, the fundamentals of alignment.

KATHLEEN: What comes to mind when you think of transformation?

KATHLEEN: The dictionary states that it's a marked change usually as an appearance in character and it's usually for the better.

KATHLEEN: How many of you see yourself one way but you act another?

KATHLEEN: How many of you feel misunderstood?

KATHLEEN: Do you ever get the impression that no one ever really sees you? Have you ever had the experience of feeling like you were in hell? And you did not know how you arrived or worse ayet, how to leave? All these questions are showing you your disconnect and your disconnected is with yourself.

KATHLEEN: I'm going to explain the fundamentals of aligning with yourself and how you got those mental programming or paradigms and tools in how to reconnect with yourself and move in the direction of your dreams.

KATHLEEN: But first, I want to talk about alignment. I'd like to explain what that means to you. How you can notice if you are or not in alignment with yourself and how you can master it.

KATHLEEN: Alignment is a state of being and it takes practice. The more aware you are when you get out of alignment and put yourself back in the easier it gets.

KATHLEEN: There's a difference between knowing and practicing the principles.

KATHLEEN: Alignment is a practice. Dedication and consistency are key. Just like the athlete to be the best in the world takes practice consistency and dedication.

KATHLEEN: Alignment is about feeling good. Finding happiness consistently. Like when you were a child. Happiness is our natural state. So is alignment. The journey of alignment is not seeking it out but letting it find you.

KATHLEEN: We create our happiness through a string of tiny happy moments. I want to take this down to the ridiculous so you can really understand what I'm talking about.

KATHLEEN: When you want to create a year of happiness, what you do is you create 12 consecutive months and then there's four consecutive weeks and then seven consecutive days, then you bring it down to 12 waking hours to one hour to 60 minutes to one minute to 60 seconds. What you're doing is you're actually creating your happiness because we always think that happiness is coming from outside of us.

KATHLEEN: I'm just as guilty as anyone else because I used to think if I had this or that I would be happy if I had a new house or a boyfriend or whatever it was I would be happy. I never really stopped to think that happiness actually comes from inside.

KATHLEEN: When we're kids, we play, we have fun, we used our imagination. We could make fun out of just about anything that we've experienced in our life up until that point.

KATHLEEN: As we age and get older, for some reason, we don't remember how to play because we go to school, then we're in college, then we have work, then you have kids and when the kids start getting older is when you start remembering to play a little bit more.

KATHLEEN: I always get a kick out of the dads that have the nail polish on their nails and makeup on their face because they're playing with their little girls.

KATHLEEN: I think that is awesome that you have these macho men playing dress up with their daughters. That's fun because that's what kids want. That's what we should be doing is having fun and who cares what people think about us.

KATHLEEN: When we're trying to create, being happy, it's about being present right here right now that you're in the moment right now. You can't control how happy you're gonna be. Today, tomorrow or next year. All you have is the present moment.

KATHLEEN: In order to master alignment, it is an emotional game. Most humans give most of their emotional power away to circumstances which are outside of their control.

KATHLEEN: For example, if your boss praises you for something, you feel accomplished or your neighbor praises you for your garden, you feel proud. Alternatively, if you bring home moldy cheese from the grocery store, you feel frustrated and get angry.

KATHLEEN: It's time to take back your inner control over your circumstances, conditions and situations which cause these negative mood swings. We try to manipulate our circumstances to make us feel better. I was notorious for this. I didn't want to make changes for anybody.

KATHLEEN: I didn't want to make people be something they weren't, but I knew how to manipulate circumstances. That was really a cool thing to do because I wasn't so-called controlling anything, but I really was controlling a lot at that point. What I did come to learn over the years is that I can never control the circumstances.

KATHLEEN: What I had to do is I had to learn how to detach and let go and disconnect from outcomes. You need to decide that you want to be happy and then make that a priority. About two years ago, I think was when I really decided that I really wanted to be happy and push in that direction. I started really looking at how I manage my happiness like when I'm a ballroom dancer.

KATHLEEN: When I'm dancing, that was easy because I'm doing what I love. I'm having body movement. I feel creative. I feel energized. I can grump at my dance instructors because they would hurt me because they would make me stretch and I don't think I could stretch any further. Of course, we always can.

KATHLEEN: It was fun. That was fun. I told my instructors that if they ever stop pushing me, I would be very angry at them. Even if I'm grumping, that means I'm happy. It's a weird way to show that. It is what I was doing is and how I had to bring joy back into my life. When we bring happiness back and we take control of our happiness.

KATHLEEN: What I discovered at that point also was that I had a lot of positive things were happening in my life because I was being childlike. I was having fun. I was laughing, I was moving and I brought like a different kind of people around me.

KATHLEEN: I was able to not be so angry or grumpy or frustrated or God is after me or whatever head trash, I would tell myself. When I really focused on coming into alignment with myself, it made a big difference in everything else. My self-image came up. I wanted to look a certain way or dress a certain way because now I'm looking at my future self.

KATHLEEN: Who do you want to be five years from now? I have big dreams of where I want to be and what I want to do. There's that self-image that comes along with that. If I want to move into that person, then that means I need to be in alignment with myself.

KATHLEEN: If I think that my future self lose 10 pounds or cut my hair or wear my makeup differently, then I'm going to do that because first of all, it's gonna make me feel better. I'm gonna feel more in alignment with myself because we already know how we feel and we always let our outside circumstances affect us. I have been very guilty about that.

KATHLEEN: The one way that I was able to start moving out of that, allowing my circumstances to control me was I started having a morning practice. I didn't realize at the time how important a morning practice was. I've heard about them for years. I would do some, but I would never go to the extent that I started doing a few years ago.

KATHLEEN: It doesn't matter how long it takes what you're trying to do in your morning practices. Did you want to feel good and do you want to feel happy? One of the practices that I do is I start my day with gratitude and I also end my day with gratitude because gratitude keeps you in a higher vibration.

KATHLEEN: There's a lot more positiveness comes into you. It starts going into your subconscious mind when you have an attitude of gratitude. I really believe that gratitude is one of the biggest fundamental changes I made in my life when I started showing more of that.

KATHLEEN: I also write down my goals and I listen to inspiration on YouTube or on podcasts or whatever to where I'm learning a little bit more about myself, what else I can do to understand what I can do and that I stay on the right track and it keeps me moving in that direction. I am taking those baby steps that I want to move into the next direction.

KATHLEEN: Some could have a meditation practice, some could be doing yoga, it could be exercising, running, it's whatever brings you into that place of happiness to where you feel good and you want to be in that good mood.

KATHLEEN: When you're ready to go out into the world or work, instead of having road rage on the way to work and then your day is gone for the rest of the day when you have a morning practice, this actually helps you to stay grounded in that happiness a little bit more.

KATHLEEN: Once you had finished with your morning practice, then I want you to rank your happiness on 0 to 10. Zero being unhappy and 10, you're so happy that you literally irritate everyone around you. For example, when I was a teenager, my mother would sing. You are my sunshine when we got up and we all scowled at her because why are you so freaking happy?

KATHLEEN: Can you imagine 13, 14, 15 years old and your mother singing? You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. Oh my God, please save me. The whole point, she was trying to teach us and show us that if you're happy, everything's good.

KATHLEEN: Even though we grumped at her, she still kept singing that song every morning when all of her girls got up. It was so funny and I remember talking to her years later about it and she finally stopped because she got tired of all of her girls grumping at her in the morning.

KATHLEEN: It was so funny. Wow, I didn't even realize what you were doing at the time, it was an interesting thing and not realizing that this is important to do.

KATHLEEN: When you go out into your day, then you want to check in with yourself throughout the day. If you left the house and say you were at a happiness level of eight and you come back and then you notice an hour or two later, you're a four, what you do need to do is to stop and check in on what caused that happiness level of yours to drop?

KATHLEEN: It could have been somebody cut you off in traffic. It was you heard something, some bad news on the radio. It's a matter of trying to decide what it was that brought you back down. Once you discover that, then what it does is that you now have an opportunity to bring yourself back up into that happiness mode.

KATHLEEN: If it was something that happened in traffic or on the road, then you know that you don't have to let that affect you the next day. You know that something in traffic an accident or somebody does something you can't control let that affect you. You can stay happy. It's about being present in that.

KATHLEEN: It's also suggested that you check in with yourself throughout the day. Either have a timer or put something on a calendar of where are you right now in the moment? What that does is it keeps you very present because a lot of times we can go into autopilot and not realize that we're on autopilot.

KATHLEEN: All of a sudden, we discover why do I feel weird? A lot of times we don't stop and move into that next direction. We push ourselves and stay there instead of stopping, taking a breath, reflecting. Once we discover it, then we can get back on to the next portion of our day.

KATHLEEN: We're talking about when your happiness level drops and you need to reflect on why that happened. Did your boss say something to you? Did a paradigm show up? Did you not get the call you were expecting? Who knows what it could be? It could be a lot of things. These are the questions you ask yourself when you're reflecting back as to when you were happy and then when that went down.

KATHLEEN: A couple of questions that you can ask yourself is what circumstances or thought caused that wobble that pulled you down. If you ask your intuition, it will let you know. Then what was the emotional state that triggered you that brought your happy scale that brought you down on the happy scale?

KATHLEEN: These two questions are gonna do two things. First, it's gonna help you to build emotional resilience. If you were at an eight on your happiness level and you notice you went to a four and as you reflect on what changed you discovered it had to do with getting stuck in a traffic jam on your way to work.

KATHLEEN: The next day, you can anticipate that traffic jam where it doesn't cause you to drop in your happiness level. If you do this every day, you're gonna learn more of what causes you to drop in your happiness level. Then you can anticipate the future and not allow it to affect you.

KATHLEEN: You are a mastering your thoughts and your life by doing this. If you continue to do this with practice and repetition, the subconscious mind will start to reprogram itself and you are one step closer to brushing things off.

KATHLEEN: The second thing that's gonna happen is you're gonna become emotionally aware. This is that circumstances that cause that create the wobble and cause you to dip in your happiness levels, happiness scale triggers some emotions.

KATHLEEN: When you're looking at the specific emotions, you need to look at what's the dominant negative emotion. What I mean by that is that when I get triggered, I show up as anger and my emotional state is I'm unworthy. It doesn't matter what the the situation is, it's always anger and unworthiness.

KATHLEEN: In taking this one step further. I also realized that I take everything personally. You really gotta look at that emotional side of how this is because there's a thinking side to what we do and there's that emotional side.

KATHLEEN: It's never personal when circumstances, situations or conditions appear. All they are are learning opportunities. We don't see it that way. I'm always what God doesn't like me today or he did this or he's mad at me or, it was always everyone else's fault.

KATHLEEN: It was never, ever my fault. I never wanted to take responsibility for anything that I thought or anything that I did.

KATHLEEN: I don't know where I learned that from, but it was something that I do. I think all of us do as little kids. I think we do that. You see kids and they get caught in their hands are caught in the cookie jar and they're saying I didn't do it or they start crying. It's the funniest thing.

KATHLEEN: I think this is like an innate ability thing that we do with ourselves is that we're just never wrong.

KATHLEEN: When I want to reflect on it and change it, what I realized is I don't have to take it on. If my boss said something to me and I didn't like what he said, that doesn't mean I have to take it on or that I'm a bad person. It's that I can reflect on what he said. I can look at it. I can see if there's something that needs to be changed or whatever it was that was being brought to my attention.

KATHLEEN: I didn't have to feel unworthiness about it or I didn't have to be angry or I should know better or he just doesn't like me or whatever weird stuff that we say to ourselves about this because I'm not a bad person. The only way I'm a bad person is if I decide I'm gonna take it on in that way and start punishing myself.

KATHLEEN: The reason we probably punish ourselves is because we were punished when we were kids. If we did something wrong, we learned that if we did something wrong, we were punished for it.

KATHLEEN: When we're punishing ourselves for being human doesn't make any sense. We have to stop doing that. It's about time that we start looking at ourselves that we are children of God and where we are is perfect, right where we are. Because if we weren't supposed to be here, we'd be somewhere else.

KATHLEEN: We're here learning this is what we do on this planet. This is an evolutionary school where we learn and we grow and we change. If we're not conscious, nothing changes. We have so many tools and gifts that were given to us and we put negative emotions on everything. The thing is, is that all of us want to go around I want to be happy, I want to be loved.

KATHLEEN: I want to feel happy, joyfulness and be playful and all of this. But don't give me anger, frustration, jealousy, unworthiness, all of that. The thing is, is we put the charge on those emotions. They're just emotions, they're not good, bad, right or wrong. They're just emotions and our emotions are teaching us things.

KATHLEEN: The one thing that I've learned when I really started practicing these principles of alignment and wanting to be happy, it does get easier. It has gotten so much easier to where I laugh more freely. It's not like I'm trying to find something to be happy or laugh about. I am because I've learned to start accepting myself. I realize I'm a good person.

KATHLEEN: A lot of the things that I walked around my life with this big chip on my shoulder were all lies that were put on me. I took them on because I didn't know any better. As I started deciding what I want and live the life that I want because I am a gift as you are. I do have a purpose in life as you do. We all have a meaning and we all have a purpose.

KATHLEEN: We may not know what that is, but we learn it. Where we learn this as we go through our disconnect. Part of that is our disconnect is when we have emotional baggage and we don't know what that is. What we picked up over our life experience and it remains unprocessed, which then brings us into our paradigms, which we're gonna talk about next week.

KATHLEEN: When we start owning every element of who we are and take total 100 responsibility that everything is your fault, your life will change. I promise you it will change. I can't tell you how many times I walked around going, I did not create this. And yes, I did. The only reason I know that I did afterwards was because when I got on the other side, it was a monumental change.

KATHLEEN: When we are constantly saying I would never do this to myself, I would never do this. Yes, we did because there's something inside of us that knows that there's a self-limiting belief within us that we need to transform. We need to bring light into that dark part of ourselves. When we're looking at changing and growing, I promise you all that garbage is gonna come up to your face every bit of it.

KATHLEEN: Our world right now is a prime example of what's happening. There is so much light coming onto the planet right now and people are out of alignment with themselves, they're out of touch with themselves. They live on their phone 24/7 and there's no connection with another human being. They're on social media thinking that you're connected to another human.

KATHLEEN: That is not true at all because connection is being face to face, it's being able to touch. It's about being in somebody else's energy and experiencing that. It's the exchange of coming together. There's a magic in that. Especially when you're talking about something really powerful or dynamic or growing and you're learning and you're evolving.

KATHLEEN: That's part of this whole thing of little text messages don't generally help you to grow, it doesn't trigger thought processes, but being in somebody's energy does that because I remember when I was younger, I'm so intuitive and sensitive to everything that I couldn't go to parties or be around a lot of people, I was on an overload.

KATHLEEN: There was too much going on and I could hear everybody's thoughts, I could feel everybody's emotions. I didn't even know how to speak to anybody because I was overwhelmed with stimulation from people. This is what happens to babies. Ok? This is really kind of cool.

KATHLEEN: As babies, all we do is feel everything. We're little sponges as newborns or whatever. A lot of times when the baby sleeps, it is getting used to its new environment, its new life. Then mom and dad decide we're gonna go out and get something to eat because they're going batty in the house and they take the baby along.

KATHLEEN: The baby is nice and quiet for so long and then all of a sudden it starts wailing and it won't stop wailing. I just sit there and go, oh my God. Do you have any idea that this baby has just picked up everything going on in this restaurant?

KATHLEEN: Mom and dad, of course, can't eat and everybody's looking at them and then they're embarrassed, but they want to stay and sometimes they leave. Sometimes they don't, it depends. I feel like going over there and saying, do you realize that your child has just taken everything in this restaurant on and it doesn't know how to deal with it?

KATHLEEN: What it's doing, it's screaming to get rid of this energy. That's how I felt when I was in my twenties and when I could feel everything. What I had to do is I had to really start understanding and looking at what's me and what's them when I was picking up everything from other people.

KATHLEEN: It was, it's me. It's them, it's me. It's them. That's what I used to. Oh, God, I used to do that all the time to myself. I made myself crazy going It's me. It's them, it's me. It's them, it's me. It's them. Half the time it wasn't even me. It was them. But I couldn't get a hold of that.

KATHLEEN: What I did and this was really, I don't know what made me think about this, but I'm a recovering Catholic. I'll set that right straight now. I had so much craziness around not knowing who I was. When I was around people, I actually asked for peace of mind. That was the biggest thing I asked for at that point.

KATHLEEN: I said, the Rosary every night, I did a novena or something like that to ask to have peace of mind. When I had it at the end of this Rosary, novena, I was really surprised of what that actually meant because you know what happened? I never questioned is it me? Is it them, is it me?

KATHLEEN: That it's, it was them or it was me. It was never, is it who, which, who is it? To me that was wow, this was huge to be able to ask for that kind of help because I really really needed to stop this head trash. I was in my twenties when I did this because I had a neighbor at one point who was, she was crazy.

KATHLEEN: I found out that the guy I was living with would cuss all day because he worked nights and I was gone during the day. As soon as I came home, she called the police on me I don't even know why she's calling the police. I just got home from work and I never knew what was going on.

KATHLEEN: There was this point that I was so angry and raging at her and I wanted to wish all this dark evil, nasty stuff on her. I didn't want her to have that kind of control over me.

KATHLEEN: The only thing I knew to do again was I pulled out the rosary and said a novena and it was all directed towards her. I didn't want to feel like I was a victim and I didn't understand what was going on. We ended up in court. I didn't go.

KATHLEEN: My boyfriend at the time went and I found out later that what she was angry about is that he was cussing. Her babies are in the backyard playing and I don't blame her. I'd be upset too. But why wouldn't she just say something to him? Why did she call the police when I came home? Because I was an easy mark?

KATHLEEN: I don't know. But the thing that came out of that whole situation was that she wanted to be my best friend. I never trusted her after that. We were friendly and I was nice and I was neighborly and all of that. But I kept her at an arm's distance because of what she had done.

KATHLEEN: I had forgiven her to the best of my ability at that time. It was about trying to take control because everything affected me, everything affected me. It really made me crazy that I didn't know I could control all of my emotions at that time.

KATHLEEN: When I started, and the only thing I knew to do, and this is at the very early onset of my spiritual journey. I started at 16, like I told you last week, but now I'm starting to read and study and take on more principles. The only reason I did a lot of the rosary stuff was because I was a Catholic and that was all knew at that moment.

KATHLEEN: I knew what to do because I believed in God. I knew how to talk to God or communicate with God. My mother used to tell me all the time why are you going to God? You're supposed to use this hierarchy? I'm like, what, do you mean? I'm supposed to use a hierarchy?

KATHLEEN: What the hell are you talking about? I said, if I want to talk to God, I'm gonna talk to God and if I want to tell him to screw off, I'm gonna do that too. He's gonna still love me. My mother was mortified that I would say these things and talk to God that way. I was who the hell cares?

KATHLEEN: This is my personal relationship with God. It's whatever that is for you as well. I wanted to share a little bit more about how we are out of control with our emotions and these are definitely techniques that we can move into that direction of starting to take more control.

KATHLEEN: I wanted to continue about taking control of your emotions and getting back into alignment with yourself. We all know how we feel about things. We all have our own goals and dreams and aspirations that we want to live in life.

KATHLEEN: Yet life has a way of side tracking a lot of those dreams or responsibilities because you got married and had children and now you're in a job that you may or may not like and you feel like whatever that was for you that you wanted to do.

KATHLEEN: Life took a different turn. I'm here to tell you that even though life may have taken that turn, that doesn't mean that those goals and dreams and aspirations aren't going to manifest for you. If you really want it, it's gonna happen, but a lot of it comes back down to being in alignment with yourself.

KATHLEEN: Who are you really? How do you feel about things? Who do you want to be? How do you want to act in life? That was the biggest thing when I started this transformation. I always saw myself one way in my head, but I was acting another way and that was the reaction of emotions that I didn't know how I was feeling about things.

KATHLEEN: I had to learn as well. We have to learn what our emotions are because we're not taught about emotions. We're saying, well, you're not allowed to be angry or why are you so angry?

KATHLEEN: We know some of those. But the whole point was is that when I started feeling like a little off, what am I feeling? I had to stop and start listening. Why I feel depressed? What are you depressed about? I'm not really sure what I'm depressed about.

KATHLEEN: What happened when it came? Well, somebody said this and it's well, why is it bothering you? I'm thinking, well, I don't know. That's how you do it. You go deep inside of you. I'm an expert at going deep inside of myself. I truly, truly am.

KATHLEEN: That's what makes me a really good healer and why I'm compassionate. People tell me everything that they want to tell me that they never tell anybody is because I understand. I know that is about going really deep inside to find out what some of this negative self-talk is or you discover your past lives and trust me, I know so many of my past lives that I've moved through a lot of those as well.

KATHLEEN: But sometimes somebody giving you a look, triggers you and you're, why is this triggering me? There's a reason why it triggered you. It's up to you to find out what that is. No, it may have nothing to do with you or that person or them thinking ill, but you take it as well. They're thinking ill of me.

KATHLEEN: That's not necessarily true. It's something that they're doing that triggers something in you that somebody must have done something or said something or you experienced something that caused a reaction that you need to look at so you can bring light into it and move it to that next level.

KATHLEEN: The whole point of going deep inside of you, helps you to understand who you are, it starts to bring you into a place of remembering who you are and where you can start developing boundaries. A lot of times we don't have boundaries as a society as a whole.

KATHLEEN: We push if somebody asks you to do something, you feel obligated to say yes. You don't have to say yes. That was one of the things that as I started really understanding more about me, if I didn't want to do something, then why say yes? I could be, so they would think I was a good person that I was nice. I mean, that is all crap.

KATHLEEN: If they don't think that of me now, then they're not gonna think it if I do something for them. I really started to established boundaries that made me feel even better about myself. The other thing in this process is we need time to spend with ourselves.

KATHLEEN: We need to calendar time for us where mommy gets to be mommy's time without the kids coming in or hiding in a bathroom or dad watching TV. The kids are running rampant or whatever. There's a point that you need that time to reflect on you. You need that time to assess who are you?

KATHLEEN: What do you want? Where are you going? They're so many women and I know women especially, because I've talked to enough of them I can't say much about the men because I don't know. But women have a tendency to lose themselves in their families. They have a baby.

KATHLEEN: Their life becomes about that child. They do everything for that child. The kid leaves, goes off to college and it's mommy and daddy as empty nesters and they lost who they were or somewhere along the way. They dealt with life the way they dealt with life but they lost them.

KATHLEEN: They don't know who they are, they don't know what they think. They don't know what makes them happy. They have to reassess their marriage.

KATHLEEN: There's a lot of things that happen and I think that if you take the time to be with you, take care of you do the self-care, meditate exercise, whatever it is, all that's gonna help you to gain control over your emotions, to gain control over your situations, circumstances and conditions because they are never meant for anything other than for your own personal growth.

KATHLEEN: What I found is that when a situation happens anymore, like last week when we had all these technical difficulties behind the scenes, I was, ok, whatever, we'll make do and I wasn't affected, I wasn't frustrated, I wasn't angry. I wasn't anything. Normally I would get really frustrated, why is this happening to me?

KATHLEEN: Well, nothing's happening to me. It's happening for me. The way I looked at that was how much I had grown and changed because I'm practicing these principles on a daily basis. I practice these things every day. I work on being very present in my life all the time. When something happens, ok, what do I need to do instead of, oh, I'm a victim.

KATHLEEN: We have that kind of self-power over ourselves, something changes in your own thinking in your own mind. People seem to respect you more.

KATHLEEN: At least this has been for me. People want to be around you more because you're calm. You're just feeling calm and you're stable. I guess that's a good word to call it is that you're feeling stable or in balance and that alignment and being in balance is everything and I won't do anything that's gonna upset me.

KATHLEEN: I have a business partner. I love to death, but he still makes me crazy and I understand that he makes me crazy and I do everything and he, it's just what it is. It's how we are. We've been in business together for over 20 years.

KATHLEEN: He's like my husband, business husband, so to speak. It's all ok because it's all ok. It's my stuff. It's not him, it's me, it's just me. I'm noticing that I'm not as agitated as I used to be or frustrated. It's who he is and I accept him for who he is and I move on.

KATHLEEN: There are times when my partner and I get into these little funky spats and he could say something and instead of reacting like I used to react because, people knew how to push my buttons like there was no tomorrow and I'd be this crazy lady and now it's they do that and I start laughing because I think it's funny and it's oh my God, how many years did I waste on people pushing my buttons?

KATHLEEN: I reacted instead of laughing because you know what, when you're laughing, when they're trying to push your buttons, they stop pushing your buttons because it doesn't affect you. It doesn't affect you and people do stuff to you intentionally just to get a reaction.

KATHLEEN: If they're not getting a reaction, guess what, they stopped doing it and you know what? Life gets even better. I get such a kick out of, how it took a lifetime to learn this, but thank God, I learned it and that's where we all need to be.

KATHLEEN: What I was trying to say earlier that I got off on a tangent was the darkness that's going on. We're not in darkness, it looks like everything is dark and doom and gloom.

KATHLEEN: Ever since the pandemic, life has changed dramatically. It's not the same world by any stretch of the imagination and we're all learning how to deal with it, adapt to it, continue to grow and thrive and learn and evolve.

KATHLEEN: What the biggest thing that I know is that this planet is in the dark night of the soul and it is that much light coming into the dark recesses of us, of what's going on in our governments, what's going on in the police force, all of this, child trafficking all of that.

KATHLEEN: This is all darkness where light needs to penetrate and the light is, and it's not easy to see this. It's not easy to deal with this.

KATHLEEN: The one thing that this gives us an opportunity to start showing compassion to those less fortunate. Be somebody's hero because you're a bigger person than that. When you start growing and really stepping into your true magnificence, the world's gonna change and it'll flip instantly once enough people start moving into this new direction.

KATHLEEN: I do my best. It's not always easy, but I do my best to be compassionate. Try to understand what's going on. What can I do to help somebody?

KATHLEEN: The biggest thing that I have found over this last several years is listening and smiling and looking someone in the eye to acknowledge that they're there because a lot of times we don't even pay attention. We don't pay attention to the checker at the grocery store was checking us out.

KATHLEEN: We sit there, we're on our phones or we're looking to make sure we got everything or we're trying to get the baby quiet because it wants whatever, seeing at the point of check out it wants the candy or whatever and we're not acknowledging that there's another human being standing in front of us that is, could be having a good day.

KATHLEEN: Could be, having a bad day, could be having trauma in their life. They could have lost a loved one. We don't know.

KATHLEEN: I'm guilty of this myself, but I really work on trying to be more compassionate, acknowledging somebody else is on this planet besides me because it's not always about me, even though our world is about me and us and all of that. I wanted to share

KATHLEEN: the positiveness that comes out that you become such a bigger person when you start taking personal responsibility for who you are and acknowledging that because your world gets so much easier when you take responsibility for your thoughts, actions, words and deeds.

KATHLEEN: To wind everything up, it's all about taking personal responsibility and it's about really paying attention to how you're feeling throughout your day. If you start out with a morning practice, get yourself in that really nice high vibration and start out that way.

KATHLEEN: Then you start gaining tools to move into just having more power and control in your own personal well-being. When you stop and look at, when you shift your thoughts or your feelings or feeling a little frustrated or you're not feeling as happy, stop and look at what is it that caused that?

KATHLEEN: I do this a lot throughout the day because there are some, all of a sudden, I guess that there's this doom and gloom and I'm where the hell is this coming from?

KATHLEEN: Oh, I think I'm in a process of moving something, getting ready to move into something really big and the ego comes in and is scared to death. So it's gonna do doom and gloom and think I'm gonna die. Believe me, when we talk about paradigms next week, our paradigms can do an awful lot of things

KATHLEEN: Our paradigms have a tendency to move into a physical aspect of that. You can think that things are, you're unhappy or you're gonna have a heart attack or whatever. That's how strong a paradigm can be. We're gonna go into more of that next week.

KATHLEEN: When I stop and take that time to reflect, I feel like I'm more on an even keel because I'm doing that. When it says that it's gonna start going into your subconscious mind where you automatically start feeling happy and being happy all the time. That is very true.

KATHLEEN: It takes a little bit of time because it's about practicing these new tools about paying attention to staying in alignment with who you are. What makes you happy? What makes you feel good? When something throws you off kilter.

KATHLEEN: Why should your emotional state be off kilter? Because something happened in a microcosm of a second kind of thing. That's part of really moving into part of self-mastery. I think that's a really dynamic and powerful word to say I am, I've self-mastered myself.

KATHLEEN: We're always still gonna learn, we're still human. We're never going to fully get there, but we're there. Ok? We're there. I'm a master right here right now where I'm sitting and tomorrow I'm gonna be at a whole new level of mastery because I put another 24 hours behind me on mastering who I am.

KATHLEEN: There's really something to be said about aging. I know we live in a society that doesn't think much about aging. But you know what, that's where our wisdom comes in. That's when we start realizing what's important and what's not important in life.

KATHLEEN: As you're going through your life, take control of your life. Be in control of who you are and be happy with who you are right here right now because if you're in a not so fun, pleasant situation this too shall pass. It always does. We ebb and flow in our life.

KATHLEEN: We switch back in our life. We have a goal, a dream. It's not a straight shot. We switch back. There's no getting around it. I remember I had a dream once about that and I'm oh my God, I finally got to the top of the mountain and I wasn't where I wanted to be yet, but I was at the top of the mountain and then I looked down and I was switch backing back and forth, going downhill.

KATHLEEN: I'm, oh my God, are you kidding me? This is a journey. Yes, I got to the top of the mountain because I got so much out of my way. To get to where I want to go now, I refine and tweak who I am where I want to really get more in alignment with myself.

KATHLEEN: What's an interesting thing, the mountain is always there. If you're either climbing up or you're climbing down, it doesn't matter, you're gonna switch back.

KATHLEEN: I figured if I'm climbing down, that means I'm really close to my journey. That was years ago. I'm still getting there and I'm happy to be where I am right now. Life is good. Life is good, even when it's in the toilet, it's good. We're still alive, we're breathing. That's all that matters.

KATHLEEN: Next week, we're gonna continue the transformation and we're gonna talk about paradigms what they are, how to form them, how to make, move through them and all of that.